Are We in Each Other’s Business More Than Ever?

Originally aired on Soul Deep Dig Podcast ⬅️ Listen Here
Ep 042 September 25, 2025
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These days, it feels like everyone has an opinion about everyone else. What you wear, how you parent, the career you choose — nothing seems off-limits. Add in the endless scroll of social media and the stress of uncertain times, and it’s no wonder so many of us are tangled up in each other’s business.

But why is this happening more now than before? And what can we actually do about it?

Social Media: A Constant Stream of Comparison

Not long ago, you only encountered a handful of opinions in a day — the neighbors, coworkers, maybe family. Now, with the internet, you’re exposed to thousands of people’s lifestyles, choices, and judgments before lunch.

Even if you have a solid sense of self, the sheer volume of input can be overwhelming. What once felt manageable can now leave you doubting, comparing, or second-guessing yourself.

Collective Stress: Pressure That Spills Outward

When stress builds, people often try to regulate by controlling or monitoring others. It’s like steam escaping from a kettle. Blame, judgment, and finger-pointing become ways to release pressure — but at the cost of real connection and clarity.

Layer that on top of social media, and the loop grows: stress fuels judgment, judgment gets amplified online, and the cycle repeats.

The Deeper Root: Losing Touch With Ourselves

At its core, being in someone else’s business happens when we lose touch with our own. Instead of grounding in our inner clarity, we outsource stability by scanning other people’s choices. The more we do this, the more entangled we get.

A Way Out: The Business Check

Here’s a tool you can use right away:

The Business Check
When you notice yourself upset, comparing, or judging, pause and ask:

• Is this mine?

• Is this theirs?

• Or is this life?

If it’s yours, act from your own clarity.
If it’s theirs, release it.
If it’s life, allow yourself to hold two truths — that life can be both beautiful and painful at the same time.

This simple practice helps you step back into your own business, and with it, your peace.

Holding Two Truths Sets You Free

The real path forward isn’t pretending the world isn’t chaotic. It’s learning to hold the duality: life is both tragic and beautiful, people are both flawed and loving, and you are both imperfect and whole.

When you can hold those two truths, you no longer need to control others to feel steady. You can return to yourself.

✨ Ready to practice this more deeply?
Join me in the Untangling Foundations Class — the step-by-step way to stop living in everyone else’s business and live from the self that’s always been whole.